LIFESTYLE: How To Press Play On Self-Dating

The University system comes with heavy academic workload that if you are not poised, you might lose yourself in its academic labyrinth. It is commendable that you are tackling the tasks head-on. As you strive to improve your grades, try not to immerse yourself wholly in books that you get lost in its maze. Reconnect with yourself by self-dating, and seek happiness inward besides grades and sundry other things.

It might seem weird, indulging or selfish at first, but when you begin to see the boost in your confidence level, self worth and inner peace that accompanies solo-dating, you will practise it more. It is time to press play to self-dating and explore the beautiful layers of you. Here is how.

Focus on yourself

The instruction given in an airplane is that you should secure your oxygen mask first before reaching to help others. The same applies to attainment of happiness. Look inward for self fulfillment by focusing on your appearance, your diet and your interests. The more you acquaint yourself with yourself — if that makes sense, the more you witness a boost in your confidence level and self worth. Also reward yourself to a treat by visiting places that appeal to you. Right there! There is already a glow in the hollow of your cheeks. You should pamper yourself more.

Purge yourself of negative thoughts

Go beyond treating yourself to a delicacy, primping or visiting your dream place, to listening to your thoughts. Keeping tracks of your thoughts, help you identify the subtle inner critic that condemns your efforts. You might evade these thoughts by binge watching the television, playing a video game or taking ice cream, but it still lays in ambush burgeoning. Train yourself to pinpoint this voice, and mentally shift it to positivity. Now You see dating yourself is rewarding after all, instead of sticking your nose in books only.

Prioritize your mental health

This is where you deliberately clear your mental space of junks. Life is too short to spend it brooding on your shortcomings and others' opinions of you. Wave them 'bye Felicia'; after all it is your mental health. Moreover, it is a 'solo'-dating for a reason. Journal your emotion; note mental draining activities, but capitalize on the ones that lift your spirit. Understand that you have your strengths and weaknesses without beating yourself up over the latter.  

 

Practise gratitude

Another interesting but often underrated way of having a 'me' time is to recount to yourself, things you're grateful for. For instance, I say to myself:" you are such a badass to have come this far and I love you for it".

It means you now recognize and appreciate your little efforts by stating them aloud. There you go; see the swell of pride. That is the magic self-dating weaves.

End Note

The previous paragraphs from focusing on yourself, purging yourself of negative thoughts, prioritizing your mental health to practising gratitude, encourage you to enjoy your company more. Avoid trivializing your grind because the drops of your efforts is what aggregates into a pool. Celebrate you; you deserve it.

 By AmyWrites